Nearly all the dissatisfied share this feature
One of our most enduring cognitive patterns could be that we find success as an inner task and misery as an outside one.
We are generally aware that we need to build or at least contribute to our own happiness (We have to book our path, leave our job and find our soul mate), but we do not understand that the most fundamental causes of unhappiness are not external events occurring by chance.
The product of a combination of behavior, traits, thought patterns, and changes is discontent. We know that, because — apart from a real biochemical imbalance in the brain, certain people may be satisfied and have little to do with them, while others are deeply unhappy, even if they do something.
That is not what is around us but what is within us— and almost all unhappy people have a particular characteristic of their personality.
If we are young, a parent or guardian meets our most important needs if we are lucky. Somebody ties our shoes and makes us brush our teeth, finish our homework, and have a meal. Basically, this is what kids have to survive and prosper.
Over time, a productive parent primarily allows the child to perform tasks alone. As the child grows up, it will learn how to groom, feed and look after its own home. You must know how to manage your own relationships, how and where to do your jobs, whether or not to practice and whether or not you are good.
Instead, of course, the effects of such decisions will be felt.
Nevertheless, when a child is never given the chance to be fully independent— not only responsible for his own choices, but able to achieve his own happiness or dissatisfaction — it becomes an adult. The child becomes a trapped one. That is typically because a parent who depends on the child for a sense of self has an unhealthy attachment to their parents.
We cry to our parents to fix our problems when we are young. As people, only we can be changed.
These unfortunate people share one characteristic: immaturity. It’s at the root of all patterns and behaviors that ultimately makes us unhappy with our lives.
We abandon our actions and acts and end up unintentionally fracturing relationships and harming people. When we take no responsibility for them. That is unrivaled.
If you don’t worry about your physical bodies or residences, because you don’t “feel comfortable,” you eventually get disturbed. It is unrivaled.
We project our disappointment on them and become angry when someone is wrong with us. Not only do we remain stuck in our negative and passive aggressive comments, it makes us look much more upset than we could be really. This is unrivaled.
If we are not pleased with the course of our lives, rather than strategize as confident adults, but instead choose to whine about them like helpless children, we are unhappy. It is unripens.
If we mature and grow properly, it is our appearance, our homes, our careers and eventually our accomplishments which are our responsibility.
As we mature, long-term expectations over short-term wishes can be prioritized.
We come over time to find that our pleasure in doing so is some of our greatest. By coming home, we find true happiness in a place we love. If we bring ourselves together in a way we want, we are happier and more able to connect; we benefit from a hard work like exercise and a certain career.
Once we are experienced, we can give long-term outcomes priority over short-term wishes.
Untimely men aren’t.
To be sure, clinically depressed is not “immature.” This condition varies from the general misfortune. Both are two separate bodies and encounters of various causes and treatments.
It is a reluctance to take responsibility for one’s life the source of unhappiness.
But they often feed each other, as self-reliance is generally the way you take to fix your life and cure yourself from depression (sometimes combined with therapy, medicine, etc.).
Unrivaledness could have been a personality attribute, but still a mixed one. We can focus on it, and we can repair it.
Half the world walks like children now, as if somebody else is responsible for fixing their problems, as if screaming loud enough, an adult will inevitably respond. The others go around knowing that they are adults–and they have the power and the ability to solve their problems with time, space and maturity. Or, at least, they can work on a solution and can work on a path that shifts.
The source of unhappiness is a lack of will for one’s own future. It stays in a childlike state and asks why the world doesn’t respond.